If you're reading this, you likely fall into one of the two following groups:
1. I already know or suspected you were bisexual.
2. I was/am completely surprised by this news.
Whichever group you fall in to, thanks for taking the time to read a little more about my decision to come out and live openly as who I am - a bisexual man who is happily married, and a father of three.
First and foremost, I have to thank my wife, Jessica for being my single biggest supporter in this decision. Jess has known I am bisexual since we first met and has always supported me coming out(or not) when I was ready. I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember, which often made it a bit awkward and hurtful to hear friends and family make disparaging remarks about members of the LGBT community. It is something I still take personally to this day, but I am learning to deal with it a little bit better as time goes by.
So why I decide to do this now? Why not just keep it to myself and not risk disappointing members of my family or friends? Well, to be honest, I almost decided to come out a few years ago, and did to a few family members secretly, but the fear of being ostracized was too great for me to find the courage to do so. It was only recently, when our oldest son, Aodhan, started kindergarten, and we were talking to him about never being afraid to be who he was, no matter what anybody says. The thought of being a hypocrite to my own son was too much for me and I knew it was time.
After talking it over with my wife, who said she'd support whichever decision I made, I wrestled with the decision for a few months. With National Coming Out Day being a month or so away, it gave me a little time to really think about the ramifications of my decision. So now my decision is made, and I am at peace with it.
I know that some of you will not agree with this because of deeply held beliefs, and I understand that. I do hope though, that you will accept me for who I am. I will never force you to talk about it if you don't want to, although I am more than happy to answer any questions if you have them. I love you all. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Joey
1. I already know or suspected you were bisexual.
2. I was/am completely surprised by this news.
Whichever group you fall in to, thanks for taking the time to read a little more about my decision to come out and live openly as who I am - a bisexual man who is happily married, and a father of three.
First and foremost, I have to thank my wife, Jessica for being my single biggest supporter in this decision. Jess has known I am bisexual since we first met and has always supported me coming out(or not) when I was ready. I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember, which often made it a bit awkward and hurtful to hear friends and family make disparaging remarks about members of the LGBT community. It is something I still take personally to this day, but I am learning to deal with it a little bit better as time goes by.
So why I decide to do this now? Why not just keep it to myself and not risk disappointing members of my family or friends? Well, to be honest, I almost decided to come out a few years ago, and did to a few family members secretly, but the fear of being ostracized was too great for me to find the courage to do so. It was only recently, when our oldest son, Aodhan, started kindergarten, and we were talking to him about never being afraid to be who he was, no matter what anybody says. The thought of being a hypocrite to my own son was too much for me and I knew it was time.
After talking it over with my wife, who said she'd support whichever decision I made, I wrestled with the decision for a few months. With National Coming Out Day being a month or so away, it gave me a little time to really think about the ramifications of my decision. So now my decision is made, and I am at peace with it.
I know that some of you will not agree with this because of deeply held beliefs, and I understand that. I do hope though, that you will accept me for who I am. I will never force you to talk about it if you don't want to, although I am more than happy to answer any questions if you have them. I love you all. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Joey
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